Sunday, November 25, 2007

I got a gift today..

..i got a gift today.. when i attended an 8 year olds party.. first of all GO HERE to read about my party invitation.. i attended the party.. a good half hour drive from home, on a sunday.. but i wanted to attend..

..i knew what to buy this child.. she likes dress ups and girls gear.. so Rasta and i bought a bag full of stickers and rubbers.. pens and fancy paper.. some hair things.. and a lil key tag that said 'J', so she knew it was especially for her..

..when i arrived, her 2 sisters were already there.. as well as one school friend and a neighbourhood child.. there were present wrappings everywhere.. and i knew she was high.. on the delicious energy that comes with being eight.. and having a day where its allowed to be 'all about me'.. my present merged in with all the others.. but that was fine..

..soon, all the party guests were invited downstairs.. to a room prepared with streamers and balloons..

..there were lots of adults at this party.. and i wondered who they were.. and then i got an introduction to the male carers dad.. older man, full of small talk and good humour.. he just chatted away and i nodded and smiled.. then he said...'so my son is adopted - did you know", I said 'no' ..

..he then told the story of how he and his wife had first adopted 2 baby girls and that was all that was allowed.. the limit was two... but then, his story continued.. we wanted another, so our son came to us when he was 7 years old, because there were always plenty of older children available for adoption back then.. was then that i realised.. why, in this family, this little foster girl, could be a princess.. in this family, kids are not home grown.. ..they are used to kids wondering in and finding a place to belong.. ..and she was 7 also, when she first arrived.. ..there were lots of adults at the party.. aunties and cousins.. all eager to celebrate 'J's' birthday.. like family does..

..if i didnt know better.. i would think that the goddess chose this speical home for 'J' .. a place to grow up in, as a princess.. a place to grow a bunch of happy memories to keep.. if the goddess chose this family alone, to see 'J's" specialness and sweet ways.. gift.. to understand why this family has embraced a difficult to place child.. as if she is a treasure... was worth the drive..


A win of sorts..

Saturday 24 November 2007 will be recorded as the day that friends, Alisia and Shel announced their pregnancy and the day that Labor was voted into office federally..

..we have a new Labor govt, headed by Kevin Rudd.. our local member as it happens !!

..Labor have no plans to recognise same sex headed families among other families in Oz.. there is no plan on their part to amend The Marriage Act 1961 (Cth) to apply to same sex couples as well as different sex couples..

BUT, the Labor Party is generally less conservative and has campaigned to amend other legislation that disadvantages GLBTQI people.. its a big cheer and a turning of a corner.. not a victory for GLBTQI people or same sex headed fams just yet.. but its still a BIG CHEER .. wOO hOO !!


Saturday, November 24, 2007

..eight years old..

..eight years old.. without much magic.. how sad can you be..
..eight years old.. in foster care.. separated from family.. mother, father and siblings as well..
..eight years old and tomorrow is your birthday.. and your having your first party ever.. !!
..the carer has invited your 2 sisters and your brother..
.. thank you for inviting me too.. i hope it will be your best party ever !! ..and something to add to your new collection of happy memories..

Teddy Bear Biscuits

Prep Time
Cook Time
20 mins
20 mins
250g unsalted butter, at room temperature, chopped
1 cup caster sugar
2 eggs
2 / 3 cup desiccated coconut
3 cups self-raising flour
2 tblsps cocoa powder, sifted
1 / 4 cup Dark Choc Melts, melted
Mini M&Ms, to decorate
1. Beat butter and sugar in a small bowl with an electric mixer until light and fluffy. Add eggs, one at a time, beating until combined. Stir in coconut and flour to form a smooth dough. 2. Divide dough in half. Place one half in a bowl and stir in sifted cocoa to make chocolate dough.3. To make bear heads, roll 14 level tblsps of light dough into balls. Place, 6cm apart, onto two large oven trays lined with baking paper. Using your hands, gently push down balls to flatten slightly. 4. To make bear bodies, roll 14 level tblsps of chocolate dough into balls. Place against heads and gently push down to flatten slightly. 5. Roll 56 level tsps, from both doughs, into balls. Place against bear bodies to represent arms and legs. Roll 28 level?1 / 2?tsps, from both doughs, into balls. Place against bear heads to represent ears.6. Cook biscuits, one tray at a time, in a moderate oven (180C) for about 15 to 20 minutes, or until cooked through. Cool bears on trays.7. To decorate bears, pour dark chocolate into a small snap-lock bag, squeeze into one corner, twist bag and snip tip. Attach mini M&Ms with melted chocolate to represent eyes. Pipe on chocolate nose and mouth. Put aside to set.

..i have to record this somewhere..

..if you've read an earlier post 'I was asleep when it happened', i am pleased to be able to say, that this mother has her two youngest children home with her now.. and one other, older girl is working her way home.. three out of the surviving four children.. its a good outcome.. ..i am pleased to have been able to encourage and pursue this result for the family.. and i look forward to doing the Court work to reverse the Long Term Guardianship Order that the older girl is currently subject to.. .. a fine outcome..

..on the road.. know how, sometimes some event happens and then everything changes.. a major event or change of circumstances in your life.. and then you can never go back.. you turn around, and the past is already filed away.. no longer real but a memory in your mind..

..there have been several moments in my life when just such a thing has occurred.. often it has involved a change of relationship or a shift to a new location.. this time, its involved a new location and a new job..

..i am getting better at predicting these shifts in time and place.. but sometimes it happens and i still get a surprise.. ..this time, when Rasta and I moved to Brisbane.. it happened suddenly.. without forethought or planning.. ..i got the sense we were leaving more than a city and our house.. we were leaving a moment in time.. forever... ..although i knew it.. i was unable to prevent it from occurring.. and so we slipped into the next frame of our lives..

..and i couldnt be happier with what the goddess has given us this time..

..a sustaining and sustainable relationship.. with a clever and challenging partner.. (thank you goddess for knowing me so well :)

..a job that is so much more.. there are no seams between what i do for my job and how i spend the rest of my time.. ..i am friends with my work colleagues.. i bring my work home.. ..i dont do it for the money it provides.. rewards are so much greater than that.. ..the money makes it possible to do the job i find so compelling and rewarding.. alive city .. and living at the heart.. ..and all the future prospects.. yet to unfold.. life feels alive with promise and i think it would be hard to stop from jumping out of my skin with excitement.. if i werent so damned content..

thank you goddess.. Mace..

foot note : i think it is ironic that i wrote about great changes in life.. those dayz when a shift occurs and you're transported to another time .. and when you turn around, the place you were before, is no longer there.. its already vanished into history.. recorded on a page but no longer able to be relived.. ..good bye Mr Howard.. i turned around.. and you were no longer there.. how lucky for Oz.. !!

Thanks Giving..

  • for my good health (despite recently having broken a bone in my foot)

  • for my job .. that really does seem more managable, almost one year into it !!

  • for my partner and lover.. both the sweet essence and the spice of my life..

  • for my children.. ppl i've known and loved and watched over for all of their lives.. and I will continue to for the rest of mine..

  • for my parents.. who taught me how to love unconditionally.. they know no other way to be..

  • for my life path.. so rich and varied.. and full of promise..

  • for opportunity.. to love... to study to learn from each day..

  • for the ability to see promise in whatever the goddess serves up..

  • the prize - is in the realisation of the value of the gift.. the gift of life.. lucky am i... Mace